Today is the girls' first joint birthday party with friends at our local indoor inflatable playground.
24 kids total, including mine.
Picking up an extra child from school for lunch beforehand, to help her parents with transportation.
Need to drive 30 minutes across town to get the cake I had to have ...
Then back to school to pick up my Kindergartener and the extra girl.
Then back home to serve lunch.
Then the 15 minute drive back to the party place.
I am exhausted just thinking about it!
But ..... I better get on the move ....
I can't wait until 4 p.m. today when this is over and I can look back and recall how much fun it was :()
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
Thursday, October 20, 2011
Learning Through Our Lives ...
I can't help it. I believe in kindness. I hate to see people get hurt when kindness could have made all the difference in a situation. I would like to think we would all desire to own our part in something ugly that happened and hurt others ... and make peace. And live in a big happy circle of love. Or move on kindly.
But that just isn't always the case in life. Some people just don't care to be kind and won't be.
And, I am sorry; but, I can't stand beside them.
"A person who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person."
Dave Barry, "Things That It Took Me 50 Years to learn"
"Life is short, but there is always time for courtesy."
Ralph Waldo Emerson, Social Aims
Ralph Waldo Emerson, Social Aims
Monday, September 5, 2011
Fall Is Here and Growing Up
Fall blew in today with some drastically cooler weather. Cool weather is predicted for the next fifteen days. Warm, sunny pool days are winding down here, if not over for the season already. And my five-year-old begins full-days of Kindergarten this week. Even though her full days will be every other day, they will be three full days each week. Here is her Kindergarten schedule:
Monday, Wed., Friday -- 8:30 a.m. to 3:30 p.m.
Tuesday and Thurs. -- 8:30 a.m. to 11:45 a.m.
It was the best schedule this determined mom could get here in Indiana for a Kindergarten schedule. Half-day Kindergarten is dying here as an option for just about everyone. Even the schools that still offer if are pressuring the parents to pay for full-day Kindergarten. It is very sad to me. One mom of a half-day Kindergarten girl told me that her Kindergartener is in a mixed class with full-day Kindergarten kids and the teachers tell the whole class about the afternoon activities that are scheduled. Classy, huh?
I am just not convinced that our kids need to hit the ground running full-time as five-year-olds. Can't we give our little kids just one more year to be kids? This is the first year that Kindergarten joins the rigor of the Indiana State Academic standards. My daughter will be one of the first kids tested every single year (including this one) on the new standards. If she isn't reading up to standards by third grade, she will be held back, as will any kid not making that cut. Pressure. Pressure. And they are only five. It is simply wrong in my opinion. Kids need to be kids.
Kindergarten IS still optional here in Indiana, but given the above, is it really optional? Not really. Oh well. I am happy with our choices and glad we do have a choice still. I pray that Kindergarten will maintain this schedule next year as well because my youngest daughter will be entering Kindergarten next year. I want to stand up for my kids' childhoods and still do right by them when it comes time to be tested into oblivion.
Monday, Wed., Friday -- 8:30 a.m. to 3:30 p.m.
Tuesday and Thurs. -- 8:30 a.m. to 11:45 a.m.
It was the best schedule this determined mom could get here in Indiana for a Kindergarten schedule. Half-day Kindergarten is dying here as an option for just about everyone. Even the schools that still offer if are pressuring the parents to pay for full-day Kindergarten. It is very sad to me. One mom of a half-day Kindergarten girl told me that her Kindergartener is in a mixed class with full-day Kindergarten kids and the teachers tell the whole class about the afternoon activities that are scheduled. Classy, huh?
I am just not convinced that our kids need to hit the ground running full-time as five-year-olds. Can't we give our little kids just one more year to be kids? This is the first year that Kindergarten joins the rigor of the Indiana State Academic standards. My daughter will be one of the first kids tested every single year (including this one) on the new standards. If she isn't reading up to standards by third grade, she will be held back, as will any kid not making that cut. Pressure. Pressure. And they are only five. It is simply wrong in my opinion. Kids need to be kids.
Kindergarten IS still optional here in Indiana, but given the above, is it really optional? Not really. Oh well. I am happy with our choices and glad we do have a choice still. I pray that Kindergarten will maintain this schedule next year as well because my youngest daughter will be entering Kindergarten next year. I want to stand up for my kids' childhoods and still do right by them when it comes time to be tested into oblivion.
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Advice and Criticism
This post comes from thoughts about a battle I recently had with an extended family member ...
I have been thinking lately about advice and criticism. For the most part, I want feedback from people. It is great to get different ideas and then make one's own decision. But, on some occasions, advice and criticism hits me less positively. So, I began to wonder ...
When we react most strongly to certain advice, is that a message in itself? Does it mean maybe the advice rings true? I had to think about that.
I have decided that strong feelings about advice or criticism can mean a number of things. It might mean we don't like something pointed out to us because it is unpleasant. It could mean we are hearing something powerful that we need to take action on. It could mean that the person giving this advice or criticism is being rude in the way they are giving it.
It could also mean that the person is just being a pain in the rear because they feel insistant that their advice is what it right for us when it isn't. Or, it could mean that we have certain needs that the advice is butting up against ... such as the need to be right, the need to be regarded well, etc.
I don't think strong reactions necessarily mean that the advice or criticism being dished out is true. But, I always do think that a strong reaction is worth exploring from a personal standpoint myself.
I think the most important thing about offering advice or constructive criticism is to remain respectful of the person you are bestowing this advice on. They are really the expert in their own lives.
So, what do you think about advice or criticism? Do you like to get the opinions of others? Do you find unsolicited advice offensive, or do you see it as an opportunity?
I have been thinking lately about advice and criticism. For the most part, I want feedback from people. It is great to get different ideas and then make one's own decision. But, on some occasions, advice and criticism hits me less positively. So, I began to wonder ...
When we react most strongly to certain advice, is that a message in itself? Does it mean maybe the advice rings true? I had to think about that.
I have decided that strong feelings about advice or criticism can mean a number of things. It might mean we don't like something pointed out to us because it is unpleasant. It could mean we are hearing something powerful that we need to take action on. It could mean that the person giving this advice or criticism is being rude in the way they are giving it.
It could also mean that the person is just being a pain in the rear because they feel insistant that their advice is what it right for us when it isn't. Or, it could mean that we have certain needs that the advice is butting up against ... such as the need to be right, the need to be regarded well, etc.
I don't think strong reactions necessarily mean that the advice or criticism being dished out is true. But, I always do think that a strong reaction is worth exploring from a personal standpoint myself.
I think the most important thing about offering advice or constructive criticism is to remain respectful of the person you are bestowing this advice on. They are really the expert in their own lives.
So, what do you think about advice or criticism? Do you like to get the opinions of others? Do you find unsolicited advice offensive, or do you see it as an opportunity?
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Parenting truths learned ...
One thing that is nice about having a large age gap between my first child and my younger two children is that I have gained a sense of perspective over the years. Of course, this helps me with my preschool age children and not so much with my newly-turned 13-year-old ;) But, I will take what parenting experience I have and be thankful for it.
Some things I have learned about preschoolers and younger children after parenting this age one time already, and also from knowing other parents who have walked the preschool path once before. These things may not be popular nuggets of information to share. Some parenting topics are just heated. Some things in life you just have to live through first in order to truly determine your own more concrete view on how that life stage or parenting situation is truly best handled (in your own life situation). Unfortunately, hindsight doesn't always help us as we navigate the initial path through parenthood.
But, for what it is worth, below is a short collection of "truths" that I have extracted from my own parenting experience. No, I am not a world expert on parenting. This is just my blog and this is just what I think based on my life experience. One thing about me is that I am a lover of anything that can be learned. I enjoy being challenged, stepping outside of my own ideas (no matter how concrete I think they are already), and looking at things in new ways. I don't know why; but it is just really very exciting to me to learn new things and new ways of looking at life. It just makes life interesting. It keeps me learning.
So, here are some of my ideas ... some might think they are wild and zany ideas and that is o.k. And yes, I wholeheartedly believe in them. I can't help it and I am sorry. I am who I am.
1.) Young boys should be held back from Kindergarten and go in as older boys.
2.) Most preschool programs are not developmentally appropriate and these programs are perpetuated by government ideas about educating kids in the older grades. Preschoolers learn best through enriched play. They do not need worksheets and drills or desk work, unless it is very minimal. Let's not stifle their creativity so young please. Unless you are using preschool for a mom's day out, get your child out of those types of preschool programs. They will have plenty of years to be schooled in structured settings that are less hands on.
3.) A clean house is not really important in the scheme of things. I don't mean we should live in filth, but things do clean up. Kids learn from some of the crazy things they do. That doesn't make them rotten or bad for doing them. If something is against the rules or really steps over a line for you as a parent, then don't allow it. But, be flexible for goodness' sake. You can spend your entire life sorting your socks when the kids' are grown.
4.) Sometimes when kids are tired, they can appear to have ADHD or to have terrible behavior problems. Some kids move faster when they are tired.
5.) Working closely with your child's school is important at any and every age. Be a partner and an advocate for your child's education.
6.) Teach them to do as many things for themselves as soon as possible ... and as soon as they are ready ... no matter how much more time that takes you as a parent of young kids. When they are older, life will be easier because you did.
7.) Kids don't have to be in every single sport, or club, or extracurricular activity. If they are interested and you can afford to foster that interest, then do so. But keep it fun and about learning until THEY want it to be about something bigger. Keep in mind that most adults don't have a place to play competitive team sports in this world after college. Being the best ball player is not the "be-all" and "end-all" for your child's success in this world.
8.) Let kids be who they are. Some kids don't like to do things that we as a society think all people should enjoy doing. Don't let them live in a bubble, but if they don't want to go to a school dance, then more power to them I say! Kudos to the kids who can make their own decisions and stay true to their own desires when their peers are sometimes going along with the crowd to ensure they are part of a "cool" group.
9.) If your child is being bullied at school, get up to the school and INSIST it be stopped. Use the term "bully." Insist on ZERO tolerance. Follow up daily until you are certain the situation is under control. Then, keep following up!
10.) I will end this list at ten items. So lastly, I will say ... do not be afraid to discipline your kids. We owe it to our kids to be their parents. This is not an easy role sometimes for a parent like me because it is ... indeed ... TRUE that doling out consequences is way more painful for ME than it is for my kids!
So, what do you agree with? What do you hate or disagree with from my above list? Please share your thoughts and your own parenting "truths" developed in the trenches!
Some things I have learned about preschoolers and younger children after parenting this age one time already, and also from knowing other parents who have walked the preschool path once before. These things may not be popular nuggets of information to share. Some parenting topics are just heated. Some things in life you just have to live through first in order to truly determine your own more concrete view on how that life stage or parenting situation is truly best handled (in your own life situation). Unfortunately, hindsight doesn't always help us as we navigate the initial path through parenthood.
But, for what it is worth, below is a short collection of "truths" that I have extracted from my own parenting experience. No, I am not a world expert on parenting. This is just my blog and this is just what I think based on my life experience. One thing about me is that I am a lover of anything that can be learned. I enjoy being challenged, stepping outside of my own ideas (no matter how concrete I think they are already), and looking at things in new ways. I don't know why; but it is just really very exciting to me to learn new things and new ways of looking at life. It just makes life interesting. It keeps me learning.
So, here are some of my ideas ... some might think they are wild and zany ideas and that is o.k. And yes, I wholeheartedly believe in them. I can't help it and I am sorry. I am who I am.
1.) Young boys should be held back from Kindergarten and go in as older boys.
2.) Most preschool programs are not developmentally appropriate and these programs are perpetuated by government ideas about educating kids in the older grades. Preschoolers learn best through enriched play. They do not need worksheets and drills or desk work, unless it is very minimal. Let's not stifle their creativity so young please. Unless you are using preschool for a mom's day out, get your child out of those types of preschool programs. They will have plenty of years to be schooled in structured settings that are less hands on.
3.) A clean house is not really important in the scheme of things. I don't mean we should live in filth, but things do clean up. Kids learn from some of the crazy things they do. That doesn't make them rotten or bad for doing them. If something is against the rules or really steps over a line for you as a parent, then don't allow it. But, be flexible for goodness' sake. You can spend your entire life sorting your socks when the kids' are grown.
4.) Sometimes when kids are tired, they can appear to have ADHD or to have terrible behavior problems. Some kids move faster when they are tired.
5.) Working closely with your child's school is important at any and every age. Be a partner and an advocate for your child's education.
6.) Teach them to do as many things for themselves as soon as possible ... and as soon as they are ready ... no matter how much more time that takes you as a parent of young kids. When they are older, life will be easier because you did.
7.) Kids don't have to be in every single sport, or club, or extracurricular activity. If they are interested and you can afford to foster that interest, then do so. But keep it fun and about learning until THEY want it to be about something bigger. Keep in mind that most adults don't have a place to play competitive team sports in this world after college. Being the best ball player is not the "be-all" and "end-all" for your child's success in this world.
8.) Let kids be who they are. Some kids don't like to do things that we as a society think all people should enjoy doing. Don't let them live in a bubble, but if they don't want to go to a school dance, then more power to them I say! Kudos to the kids who can make their own decisions and stay true to their own desires when their peers are sometimes going along with the crowd to ensure they are part of a "cool" group.
9.) If your child is being bullied at school, get up to the school and INSIST it be stopped. Use the term "bully." Insist on ZERO tolerance. Follow up daily until you are certain the situation is under control. Then, keep following up!
10.) I will end this list at ten items. So lastly, I will say ... do not be afraid to discipline your kids. We owe it to our kids to be their parents. This is not an easy role sometimes for a parent like me because it is ... indeed ... TRUE that doling out consequences is way more painful for ME than it is for my kids!
So, what do you agree with? What do you hate or disagree with from my above list? Please share your thoughts and your own parenting "truths" developed in the trenches!
Thursday, May 20, 2010
What a day can bring ....
It has been a day ... just wow!
Today was one of those days that I felt led/guided through the things that transpired.
I did not want to go to the "Preschool Closing" this morning. (This is where Co-op Moms help the teachers close up the school for the Summer. We haul toys and preschool furniture into two sheds and pack up things in the classroom, take things down from walls, etc.) There were many logical reasons why this was not the best thing for my calendar this morning. But, I was really drawn to this idea that I must go. I am so glad I went.
I am glad I went because I learned about a charter school option that was being talked about by two other moms there today. So this information came to me from a conversation I didn't even start nor want to really have. Dh and I had already decided where ds would be going to Jr. High School next year. I admit that I have had some thoughts about this that were hot thoughts based on things I kept hearing about the Jr. High and High School in our township, but I never knew we would be considering another viable option for ds today.
But I went home and surprised myself by googling that school mentioned this morning. I then made some phone calls. And then I researched the data of various nearby schools along with that one and a few others (just for comparison).
And I used mapquest to map out two school choices that could work pretty well with dh's work location. And bingo! I uncovered some very real choices for my ds next year!
On Saturday we will be going as a family to tour this one particular charter school that we feel stands out as a very real option for ds. I am so hopeful that this is an option we can get excited about; an option that will truly be right for my son.
Dh could take him to school most days. I could take him when dh couldn't. I would most likely need to do the picking up each school day. But if it was the right fit for ds, I would have no issue doing that.
Being a charter school, this school would be in our budget. And maybe being a charter school, it would not be as over-the-top for my son as some of the parish schools were for him academically .. perhaps this would be a place where he could be challenged and shine as well.
I know I want what every parent wants for their child. I know my child is not the most complex child in the world. But he has been a challenge to find the best fit for him educationally. He isn't paying attention to math now in his ruckus of a classroom. I feel doubtful that he will pay attention any harder when he becomes aware there is gang activity out in the hallways at our local public Jr. High. Ds needs something smaller and not over the top.
I know I have stars in my eyes, but I want this to be the place!
If it isn't, ds will go to the local public Jr. High as planned. Or maybe something else will present itself.
But, even if we had the money right now, I do not see a private school that fits ds's needs either.
Parenting is hard.
I would miss that bus that comes each day to make my life much easier. Yet, I hear horror stories about the Jr. High bus. Was I really going to let ds ride that bus every day anyway after sixth grade? I was hoping to do so, yes. But things get very ugly on the Jr. High bus. I have asked way too many people about this stuff with the public Jr. high ...
Nicholas' teacher says differently but various very good kids tell me the real stories that go on in these schools. I had just told dh last night that we should be prepared for a difficult journey ahead.
Is this an answer for us?
I don't know.
I only feel compelled to check it out some more and I feel excited about what I might find for my son.
And this also explains some stuck thoughts I have been having about the school situation for my girls (both for next year and in the future).
I realize it is only preschool ... but these are my favorite school years. The Co-op is a fun place and I enjoy sharing it with my little one(s). Am I willing to give up 10 free mornings per month in order to be able to never look back with regret that I missed Racers class with my youngest child? I think I am.
There will be so many days that I can go here and there and everywhere and be free someday ... but right now, I get to decide so much and I just might truly want to haul my butt to that preschool five days per week so that I will never regret not doing so when I can never again turn back that clock to these precious years with all three of my children.
Today was one of those days that I felt led/guided through the things that transpired.
I did not want to go to the "Preschool Closing" this morning. (This is where Co-op Moms help the teachers close up the school for the Summer. We haul toys and preschool furniture into two sheds and pack up things in the classroom, take things down from walls, etc.) There were many logical reasons why this was not the best thing for my calendar this morning. But, I was really drawn to this idea that I must go. I am so glad I went.
I am glad I went because I learned about a charter school option that was being talked about by two other moms there today. So this information came to me from a conversation I didn't even start nor want to really have. Dh and I had already decided where ds would be going to Jr. High School next year. I admit that I have had some thoughts about this that were hot thoughts based on things I kept hearing about the Jr. High and High School in our township, but I never knew we would be considering another viable option for ds today.
But I went home and surprised myself by googling that school mentioned this morning. I then made some phone calls. And then I researched the data of various nearby schools along with that one and a few others (just for comparison).
And I used mapquest to map out two school choices that could work pretty well with dh's work location. And bingo! I uncovered some very real choices for my ds next year!
On Saturday we will be going as a family to tour this one particular charter school that we feel stands out as a very real option for ds. I am so hopeful that this is an option we can get excited about; an option that will truly be right for my son.
Dh could take him to school most days. I could take him when dh couldn't. I would most likely need to do the picking up each school day. But if it was the right fit for ds, I would have no issue doing that.
Being a charter school, this school would be in our budget. And maybe being a charter school, it would not be as over-the-top for my son as some of the parish schools were for him academically .. perhaps this would be a place where he could be challenged and shine as well.
I know I want what every parent wants for their child. I know my child is not the most complex child in the world. But he has been a challenge to find the best fit for him educationally. He isn't paying attention to math now in his ruckus of a classroom. I feel doubtful that he will pay attention any harder when he becomes aware there is gang activity out in the hallways at our local public Jr. High. Ds needs something smaller and not over the top.
I know I have stars in my eyes, but I want this to be the place!
If it isn't, ds will go to the local public Jr. High as planned. Or maybe something else will present itself.
But, even if we had the money right now, I do not see a private school that fits ds's needs either.
Parenting is hard.
I would miss that bus that comes each day to make my life much easier. Yet, I hear horror stories about the Jr. High bus. Was I really going to let ds ride that bus every day anyway after sixth grade? I was hoping to do so, yes. But things get very ugly on the Jr. High bus. I have asked way too many people about this stuff with the public Jr. high ...
Nicholas' teacher says differently but various very good kids tell me the real stories that go on in these schools. I had just told dh last night that we should be prepared for a difficult journey ahead.
Is this an answer for us?
I don't know.
I only feel compelled to check it out some more and I feel excited about what I might find for my son.
And this also explains some stuck thoughts I have been having about the school situation for my girls (both for next year and in the future).
I realize it is only preschool ... but these are my favorite school years. The Co-op is a fun place and I enjoy sharing it with my little one(s). Am I willing to give up 10 free mornings per month in order to be able to never look back with regret that I missed Racers class with my youngest child? I think I am.
There will be so many days that I can go here and there and everywhere and be free someday ... but right now, I get to decide so much and I just might truly want to haul my butt to that preschool five days per week so that I will never regret not doing so when I can never again turn back that clock to these precious years with all three of my children.
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
Unraveling my thoughts ...
The last 11 days have been tough. For about 8 of these days, one girl or another was sick with a nasty, fever-type cold. I can count on one hand the number of times I left my house in the last 11 days ... and there is still room to count on just the one hand!
Illness brings extra whining, extra clinging, extra nose wipes, medicine battles "But I don't LIKE the medicine!!!" And then, after so many days, there was extra sibling rivalry too. All the extra bickering and kicking and fighting and grabbing things from each other was truly conspiring to torture this at-home mom who really is probably better suited to a more sane job outside the home where I could get a decent, quiet lunch hour; some true respect; and a paycheck to top it off!
My husband's work hours are insane. It is so funny to me when people think that dh's coming home at night could offer me any kind of break. All I can say to that is: ROFLMAO!!!
Now, I am not complaining. Really. I know I am blessed. I have choices. I am blessed to have choices. But, I feel the need to unravel some of my thoughts that flew crazy through my mind over the last days.
Here are some of my latest ephiphanies:
#1 -- Dh's job is going to get better (as to the amount of time that he spends there.) New management there sounds like they are better dividing the work. New management there seem to be sane, decent people. It is just that dh worked for a bozo for a year who stalled all work in the department. Sooooo, there is some catch up. A lot of catch up. They will get through it and it is going to be good.
#2 -- Even when my brain is fried and I sit here some days with my eyes crossed while chanting coping phrases inside my head just to keep me centered, I KNOW that I am THE best person to watch my kids all day, every day. There is simply nobody better for this job and I want the best for my kids. Sooooo, I am not really that bad of a mom ... even though there are days when I wonder if there is space at the mental ward for a mother who sometimes feel like she is heading over the edge. I choose ME for my kids each day. That is big. I am good to my kids even when they walk with spikes all over my nerves most days :)
#3 -- Housework just bores the crap out of me ... and that is o.k. It isn't that bad in here really. There are more important things in life than a perfectly-ordered, clean house. I am not giving up on housework or anything. I do feel that it is my job as the stay-at-home parent to keep the house in working order. And I take my role here seriously; I do. But, it is just not ever going to be exciting to me ... or pleasant for me .... or even routine for me to get this stuff done. I have tried and tried to find various ways to love housework .... and it is just NEVER going to be my thing.
#4 -- I am not one of those people who has the "need" to care take. There are people like that in the world and I think they are amazing and awesome. Maybe I am just full of care taking duties in my life right now. But, I am perfectly happy to keep strong boundaries in place when it comes to any additional caretaking demands. NO animals here. NO extra kids here thanks.
The answer is NO, NO, NO, NO, NO.
If someone with kids wants to sit here awhile and pull up a chair and chat while all of our kids play ... groovy cool. I welcome that and I want us to be friends. But, NO ... you cannot just drop your young kids off here. What are ya? Nuts?!!!
Illness brings extra whining, extra clinging, extra nose wipes, medicine battles "But I don't LIKE the medicine!!!" And then, after so many days, there was extra sibling rivalry too. All the extra bickering and kicking and fighting and grabbing things from each other was truly conspiring to torture this at-home mom who really is probably better suited to a more sane job outside the home where I could get a decent, quiet lunch hour; some true respect; and a paycheck to top it off!
My husband's work hours are insane. It is so funny to me when people think that dh's coming home at night could offer me any kind of break. All I can say to that is: ROFLMAO!!!
Now, I am not complaining. Really. I know I am blessed. I have choices. I am blessed to have choices. But, I feel the need to unravel some of my thoughts that flew crazy through my mind over the last days.
Here are some of my latest ephiphanies:
#1 -- Dh's job is going to get better (as to the amount of time that he spends there.) New management there sounds like they are better dividing the work. New management there seem to be sane, decent people. It is just that dh worked for a bozo for a year who stalled all work in the department. Sooooo, there is some catch up. A lot of catch up. They will get through it and it is going to be good.
#2 -- Even when my brain is fried and I sit here some days with my eyes crossed while chanting coping phrases inside my head just to keep me centered, I KNOW that I am THE best person to watch my kids all day, every day. There is simply nobody better for this job and I want the best for my kids. Sooooo, I am not really that bad of a mom ... even though there are days when I wonder if there is space at the mental ward for a mother who sometimes feel like she is heading over the edge. I choose ME for my kids each day. That is big. I am good to my kids even when they walk with spikes all over my nerves most days :)
#3 -- Housework just bores the crap out of me ... and that is o.k. It isn't that bad in here really. There are more important things in life than a perfectly-ordered, clean house. I am not giving up on housework or anything. I do feel that it is my job as the stay-at-home parent to keep the house in working order. And I take my role here seriously; I do. But, it is just not ever going to be exciting to me ... or pleasant for me .... or even routine for me to get this stuff done. I have tried and tried to find various ways to love housework .... and it is just NEVER going to be my thing.
#4 -- I am not one of those people who has the "need" to care take. There are people like that in the world and I think they are amazing and awesome. Maybe I am just full of care taking duties in my life right now. But, I am perfectly happy to keep strong boundaries in place when it comes to any additional caretaking demands. NO animals here. NO extra kids here thanks.
The answer is NO, NO, NO, NO, NO.
If someone with kids wants to sit here awhile and pull up a chair and chat while all of our kids play ... groovy cool. I welcome that and I want us to be friends. But, NO ... you cannot just drop your young kids off here. What are ya? Nuts?!!!
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